Appreciating Others

two kittens in shoes "you + me = friendship captionRe-posted from August 2012.

Dale Carnegie, in his book, “How to Win Friends & Influence People” wrote: One of the most neglected virtues of our daily existence is appreciation.

I wonder why that is?

You would think the virtue of appreciation would be tantamount in our dealings with others, as we ourselves crave it so deeply. If you believe that not to be true, let me ask you a couple questions.

When you do a kindness for someone you care for, and they don’t seem grateful; or even seem to notice or acknowledge the act, doesn’t it hurt just a little.

When you pour your heart into a message, a post, a speech, an article or share a testimony, and no one responds or acknowledge it, does it make you question yourself, and hurt as well?

Some people are great at thanking and acknowledging people, for some of us it take a conscious effort.

There is a quote that says, “I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it for I shall not pass this way again”.

I think that is definitely food for thought.

As I have written about before, most of us go through life on autopilot not really paying attention to many of the little, but important nuances of life.

Most of us want to do a work for God. We think about feeding the hungry, and finding shelter for the homeless. People go on mission trips to build schools and clinics. Missionaries have traveled to the most remote areas of the planet to share the word of God.

Those are all noble and good things to do. Those are things God wants His people to do.   Jesus is the One who tells us to do these things.  I just wonder if because we tend to focus on some of those weightier issues, we forget about the simple things. Simple things like showing our appreciation for the small things that other do for us.

It is so easy for us to take our spouses, children and friends for granted. Because your spouse cooks dinner for you every day, to you come to expect it, and stop thanking them?

Showing appreciation toward others doesn’t cost you a cent, but it pays great dividends. When someone thanks us for doing a great job at something, or thanks us for something we do for them, doesn’t it make us feel good? When someone shows appreciation toward you, doesn’t it make you want to do or be even better?

Think about the positive impact you could have on your spouse, children, friends or even a grocery store clerk if you were to show that kind of appreciation. Saying a kind word, or acknowledging deeds can be the difference between a good and bad day for someone. A lifetime of that could be the difference between a productive spirit led life, and a life of mediocrity.

We all want to be appreciated. Maybe if we were to show more appreciation toward others, we may find ourselves more appreciated.

What do you think about that?


  • I think we’re on the same page, Mike. I posted about being thankful this week as well and related a story about the hair I’ve donated over the years. I forget to be thankful and for those of us that grasp how thankful we should be to our Father for His grace and sacrifice on our behalf, we’re the ones that should be the light shining and one of those rays should be the act of thankfulness. Who couldn’t use a reminder daily?

    • Mike

      If we’re not vigilant, it’s easy to focus on the bad and ignore all the blessings in our lives. Most of us have so much to be thankful for, we just need to focus on it more. Always great to hear from you Floyd!